The Longing of a Woman
I invite you to listen to these words, “How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, you are beautiful! Your eyes behind your veil are like doves. Your teeth are white like newly sheared sheep just coming from their bath. Your lips are like red silk thread, and your mouth is lovely. Your cheeks behind your veil are like slices of a pomegranate. My darling, everything about you is beautiful, and there is nothing at all wrong with you.” Whispered poetry in our ears, these words of Solomon in Song of Solomon 4 were spoken for his bride. Clearly God wants the longings of a woman to be satisfied because He captured these beautiful words in His Book for the world to read. Beautiful words whispered from the lips of her lover gives her a sense of belonging, the knowing she is cherished and most importantly loved.
In this world of broken relationships around every corner, I want to speak life into the men and women wanting to cinch a long and lasting relationship. The words etched on this page hone in on the longings of a woman to be shared with their lover. A woman longs to hear words like those of Solomon; whisper “You are remarkably beautiful…your eyes mesmerize me…your lips taste as sweet as honey…your hair glistens like the early morning dew…your skin is velvety soft…your sweet smelling scent radiates as a fresh morning blossom, you my woman are loved.” Writing these words began to stir something inside of me. Words like these, spoken by her man, make him more irresistible and her more willing to submit to his needs. But a lasting relationship goes beyond mere words spoken during an intimate moment in time.
Imagine for a moment…a man calls his bride to come a little closer and takes one leg and wraps it around the left side of his hip and takes the other and wraps it around his right hip. Then, he pulls her closer, closer, closer still. Then, he looks her in the eyes and says, “I love everything about you, and I want to hear about your day.” Women long to be listened to, not just heard or in some cases never heard. No better way to give your lover undivided attention than to pull her in close, face to face so you hear and absorb every word coming from her lips. Face to face you are free of all the background noise of the social media, gaming stations, entertainment centers and more that fill the four walls of the home. Solid relationships are built on an open dialogue between lovers, not electronics and technology. Women want a one on one, open conversation where their voice can be heard. It is that simple.
The strength of your arms wrapped around your lover slowly removes the anxiety and helplessness felt after a long, stressful day. Research shows that hugs release oxytocin to the body, which lowers blood pressure, anxiety and many of the toxins that deplete the body. This simple embrace could spark a renewed sense of comfort and happiness in your lover, and as the old adage says, “it only takes a spark to start a fire.” The sparks ignite as you lightly take your hands and massage the neck and shoulders and then slowly run your hands all the way down her arms to her fingertips. Stop for a moment and let your hands relax together and feel the love between the two of you. When you want her to know how much she means to you, massage her beginning with the head working your way down to the toes, allowing time to touch every inch of her body as though you are trying to give every hair on her frame your undivided attention. She will feel the love.
As I finish this short piece on the longing of a woman, I pray for all the broken relationships. I pray somehow these words written on this page provide a way to put the pieces back together again. God never intended for us to be broken. I vision God looking down from above and shaking His head in disgust when he sees what His people have made of His beautiful creation. In Genesis 1:27 it says, “So God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” And, it goes on to describe specifically how the woman was created in Genesis 2:21-22, “So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then, the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man.” In Genesis 2:23 the man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman’ for she was taken out of man.” Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” This is beautiful scripture folks. God intended for our relationships to be beautiful. There is no better source on how a man should pour out his love on his wife and how a woman should submit to her husband than that of God’s word. He made it so simple for us…open the Bible and learn what God intends for each of us.
Tears are flowing down my cheeks at this moment. I know God gave me this piece to write and the words to place on this page, every little detail. So take heart my friends, cherish one another, pour out your love on one another, and show God we love Him and each and every word He has written in His Book for us. No one loves us more than God as is written in John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.” At this moment, I know the Holy Spirit lives in me. I feel it racing through my veins. You too can be loved beyond measure. God’s Word can give you everlasting love and much, much more. Don’t wait another minute. One day soon, Jesus will be coming as the bridegroom to take His bride home for eternity.
By Jeanette Lytle